Urgent prayers needed!!!

I don't even know where to begin without my keyboard getting wet again from tears.

ok- so my grandparents, let's start with them. Grandma is 88 and Grandpa is 87 and Grandma says that she prays every day that Grandpa goes first, because she fears if she goes first - he will be confused and won't know what to do (dementia, possible alzheimers). they are old. had a great, wonderful life.
my mother wanted one more time- just one more with the entire family. So we have been planning this weekend for months. MONTHS. The entire family was able to get off work so we can all go down to Grandma's (6 hours south)... for Easter. family reunion. She has stressed- this is most likely the last time we will all be together. LAST TIME.

let's talk about my husband's grandfather now--- who is in his 70's (most likely early 70's- though my husband is older than I, his family had children at much younger ages than mine).... anyways, his grandfather, "Papaw V.", has been in the hospital very sick for a month now. Doctors cannot figure out why his kidney's are failing- but they are. He has a DNR- and a will that says he cannot be put on life support. Weeks ago- when all this started, I prayed and prayed for God's will to be done. Please, be done so it doesn't affect the weekend that is supposed to be my "last time" with the family with my own Grandparents.. PLEASE, God, can you hear me?!

Here it is. THE weekend. my husband's Grandpa has "been made comfortable" and is "nearing the end". right smack on THE weekend. Which means- if he passes... we will be driving 4 hours in the opposite direction for a funeral. and I will most likely miss my "last time" with my family.

K- I have not quit crying all day. Can you all just pray that I pull it together so I can get things done at work before I have to leave and be completely ripped in half? just pray for peace. pray for things to happen the way they are meant to, for God's plan.

I know up here there have been funerals a week after a death. Is there not some way, that IF he does pass, his funeral could be next week? My dear dear friend had been planning a cruise for nearly a year. It was paid in advance, and her mother, in a nursing home, Alzheimer's, was not doing well at all when time for the cruise. But, my friend made arrangements "just in case", and yes, she was in the middle of the Carribbean when word came to the ship that her mother had passed away. She was home in 3 days, and the funeral was 2 days later.

I truly hope everything works out well for everyone, think positively. Will be praying that all will be good for you. God Bless.

God bless you, Lady.

Thank you. I'm usually the positive one in the family and I'm really struggling finding a positive today. Thank you for your insight Poirot, it certainly helps and I appreciate it.

I just checked on the time frame on a few funerals that I have been aware of, in the last few years. Seems that most of the funerals were 3-7 days after the person passed. The shorter time frames were for some that passed on a Monday. I truely believe that you will be able to make your "last time" family reunion with your grandparents.

I pray it all works out for you.

DaysLady you certainly are in my prayers. When we pray God's will His timing may not be our own because He is also answering the prayers [may be unspoken to us] of your grandmother & grandfather. Ttiake a step of faith for this weekend & trust God to comfort your loved ones & work out all the details.

Two years my mother passed from Alzheimer's at home. My father had passed less than 2 years earlier, I was working full time but my supervisor resented time off with FMLA, and I was diagnosed with a heart attack. Emotionally it was an exhausting stressful time and nothing went as I would have planned. Yet God worked it out but filling me with His Peace day by day.

I pray His perfect peace floods your soul Lady

my husband's grandfather just passed. I will not be with my Grandparents this weekend, as the funeral is this weekend. We have to go North and my family will be headed South. It is what it is, and it's in God's hands. My mother and grandparents all understand. I'm just completely heartbroken on all accounts. I need to be with my husband, whom I love, and be there for him and the family. we are one family now- and God will provide us a weekend to go spend time with my Grandparents, even though it will be just us, not the rest of the fam. It's ok- just pray for me. Pray for healing. pray for peace. just pray.

I'm so sorry DaysLady. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your husband's family and your family. There is a reason for the way things happened. They may not be easily seen or understood, but there is a reason behind it. Stay in faith and remember that God will hold you close through all of this. Praying for safe travels for everyone as well as comfort and peace during this difficult time.

You & your family are in my prayers. My deepest sympathy on the loss of your FIL. One bright spot about your grandmother is that she will have two visits and not just one. With Alzheimers you have to search for the good amdist the darkness.

I'm SO sorry you are going through this. My prayers to your family. Everything will work out.

I'm so sorry about all this, DaysLady. Praying for you. Your family is in my thoughts.

Hugs and prayers for all of you.

My prayers for all the families. May God grant you all His peace .

Praying for you and all of your family. I pray you get to see your side soon. Everything will work out in the end. Take care.

DaysLady,

Praying for you and all your family at this really sad and difficult time in your lives.
God Bless you all!

Hugs,
Joan

I'm sorry for the way things worked out. I'm praying for peace and healing for you and your family.

DaysLady, I'm sorry things didn't work out so you could visit your family.
Maybe they can pick another weekend to get everyone together soon.

SO.... mini update. I'm fine. so that's the good news. Also- I was where God needed me to be. period. and that's ok. I'm taking my kids and hubby down to see my grandparents in June. It won't be the family reunion- but at least we'll have that weekend to spend with them. It is what it is- ya know? so... gonna try to sum it up the best I can and keep it short... if I had to put it in one sentence: If it could go wrong, it did, but God's in control.

So, here's a small bit of background points that are important:
* Papaw (the one who passed) had 4 children: My mother in law, and her 3 brothers Junior, Billy, and Dougie. The brothers all have certain disabilities mentally.
* I went to school to work specifically with special needs adults- even volunteered at the Adult Retardation Center (The Arc) during the summers I was in college...but I never finished school, never actually got a job in the field. Turns out those summers were preparing me for God's plan--- Junior, Billy, and Dougie. <- they are God's plan for my heart for special needs.

There's a lot of legal stuff going on- a lot of stress, and the brothers were having a difficult time cooperating. I was able to talk to them- help them process everything that was happening. Dougie finally understood where his Dad was at 1am on a Sunday night. I was so glad that my mother in law and I were both still up talking and were there for him. Bless his heart--- he just processes things very differently and I just knew he was about to figure it out and break. Then at the funeral, the brothers had a hard time understanding what was going on, why dad looked like he did... etc... I am so glad I was there to be God's tool for helping the family.
Lord, use me! mold me! guide me! I'm here! Amen!

If you could all pray for Junior--- he was never officially diagnosed as a child, but I have worked with several people just like him and I believe in my opinion he is autistic. I have given the family some advice as how to handle him, but I had to come home and I'm back at work and I'm praying every moment for him while I'm back down here.
And pray for Billy and Dougie too- they seem to be doing better, but remember they process things very differently and change is a huge obstacle, it will be difficult for them. Dougie got upset before I left thinking I wasn't going to be back. Bless his heart! I hugged him and assured him we'd be back. I also got Billy and Dougie to pinky promise me they would be good for their big sister (my mother in law) and help her in any way she needs and to not keep secrets. It was sweet how they took the promise so serious--- it's good to have them understanding that they need to cooperate.

I will be going back to check on them and help but it's hard for us to get up there often. Please pray for all the legal stuff to go smoothly, for security, and for peace in both hearts and minds.
and in the roads ahead-- pray for me as I'll be helping care for my 3 uncle in laws... But God leads, and I follow. Light the way Lord, and I'll follow. Let's do this!
Pray for all of us as we proceed with caution into this next phase of life.
Pray also for Faye, our Mamaw, Papaw's sweet wife of 54 years... who really is taking this hard. My heart breaks for her, she is both grieving her husband and filled with worry about her sons and everything else.

Thank you so much for all of your thoughts! Sorry for the lengthy update... :( tried really hard to make it a "mini"... epic fail.