On the show, Marlena has raised her stepson, Brady, while John has raised his step children, Eric & Sami. Admittedly, all were very young.
Rafe was in the process of adopting Grace, when she passed away. And if it was not for EJ's constant interference, he might have been able to help raise Johnny & Sydney, as well. He was very good with those kids, who adored him.
I find it hard to understand anyone voting "hate them", when there ARE other options for both characters (Rafe & Hope).
I don't like Andre but don't hate him. Actually, don't hate any character, tho I may not like what some do.
That said, I really have a problem with the age difference between the CHARACTERS, as portrayed on the show, and I do like each character on their own. I am not in favor of them being paired romantically, because I do not think it will be something that will last. But I do agree the show just has NO romance........just sex. It truly is a shame the mindset that goes -once they are married that is the end of happy. Baloney. What is at an end is writers' imaginations.