Dear Ruffles McRed
In my younger days, I was greatly influenced by my fatha father, who had his own way of doing things, but was very successful at it. In the course of trying to follow his wishes I met and became enamoured of a young lady. There was an unfortunate sexual encounter, and eventually she gave birth to twins, making me the father of one of them. Thru the years, there were ups and downs, and during one of the better periods, managed to conceive another child, though she never revealed that pregnancy for quite some time. She married another man, but with some work on my part, was able to end that. Then, I promised to change, to be the sort of man she wanted. She eventually moved back into my home, with her children, agreed to marry me, but another problem rose it's ugly head. My sister underhandedly seduced her brother, and my fiance' realizes I knew about it, and said nothing, before my sister was about to wed her other brother. Sadly, a video was made, shown just before the wedding, and now she won't talk to me. She claims I sacrificed her holier than thou brother to protect my sister. (actually my sister is adopted, so not blood, while her brother is her twin)
Right now she is very angry with me, and while I have been able to get her past her upsets in the past, this is proving beyond me. What can I do now?
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
You naughty, naughty man! You may try to disguise events with smooth sounding rhetoric, but you cannot hide. It would seem your infatuation with this woman led you to forcing yourself sexually upon her. The fact she later hid another pregnancy from you is telling. You, sir, must be very good at hiding your bad qualities & deeds, something you undoubtably learned, as you have indicated, from your father. You, sir, appear to be a charlatan, and while you claim to be corrupted by your father, you do have a will of your own, so you cannot blame him for your heinous acts.
You are fooling yourself, if you think you will ever have a lasting relationship with this woman. She seems to understand that your promises to change were just so much rhetoric, as I have.
My advice is not to beat a dead horse. If you have to constantly scheme and lie in order to win favor with her, you will never win her hand. Let her go about her life. If she cannot be without you, she will be back, or perhaps will not leave. She knows what you have done, pointless to lie and try to cover it, however you are doing so.
Discomfited,
Ruffles McRed
